“Who wants that perfect love story anyway? – cliché, cliché, cliché” I do, Bey. I do. When trials and tribulations come knocking, the last thing most of us want to hear is the dreaded cliché “words of wisdom” to get you through your plight. You know, the kind of phrases that make you want to look at the person and say “Oh, really?! Awesome. Thanks. Yeah, I’ll get right on that. STFU!” All with a semi-psychotic grin attempting to mask your anxiety and crippling response to whatever crisis you might be dealing with at the moment.
I’ve gone through a lot of B.S. in my 24 years on the planet. Probably more than most of the people my age. But it wasn’t until just recently that I think I hit a new type of breaking point. It might be my over-achiever, go-getter personality that has brought me to reach my quarter-life crisis a few months shy of my 25th birthday. (I’m not complaining because I would much rather get it out of the way now and get lit come my born day.) But it was the sudden onset of this insane blizzard storm that has become my life – a flurry of questions about love, my job, my home, where I am, where I’m going, am I a good dog mom – that really brought me to another one of my “come to Jesus” moments. As any normal personal would do in an emotional crisis, I turned to my close friends for guidance and words of wisdom (shout out to the New Clique est. 2007). Wrapped in the hour-long conversations were words of comforting advice, motivation and encouragement, and every so often, a good old cliché. Sometimes I’d just roll my eyes. “The grass is greener,” they said. “Everything happens for a reason,” they said. Well, they were right.
Once the dust has settled (yeah, I know you saw what I did there) you take moments to reflect on what steps were taken, or not taken, to get you to where you land after the storm. I could write out a detailed step-by-step guide on how to get through a tough situation, but wouldn’t it be easier for the both of us if I could sum these steps up into simple, eloquent little phrases? Of course it would! That is why we have these wonderful little expressions to remind us that all of our bullsh*t can be summarily solved by a simple, overused thought or idea. Maybe it is time we stop giving these little guys such a bad rap and give in to the cliché.
Here are a few simple clichéd pieces of advice that you should actually take to heart:
Jessica Rafaeil is a P.R. and Branding Specialist that loves working with young artists, entertainers and entrepreneurs.